My friend just broke up with her boy friend. They had been dating since last 4 years. Like all broken-hearted lovers my friend too is going through a series of phases from angry to denial to self-blame.
She said something that has been haunting me since last couple of days. She said "How can he just fall out of love, I used to tell him I LOVE YOU everyday and he would reply back I LOVE YOU, TOO, I have no clue when did the falling out of love happened" Frankly, I knew it was coming, I am surprised my friend didn't.
In to day's times "I love you" has become the most commonly used phrase and "I love you, too" is the second most commonly used phrase. It's more like shouting on Mumbai roads "Ganpatti bappa" and you would immidiately hear someone shouting back "Mourya" or like if you say "Zor se bolo" prompt comes the response "Jai mata di".
It's the body language that tells you everything, Like
- The hugs gets quicker or at times none at all,
- Phone calls are shorter and not necessarily every night.
- You stop hurrying to the place you have decided to meet up.
- When you guys meet up the smiles are no longer that bright and big
- You guys no longer just think about each other, other thoughts and people seem more important.
In my friend's case, she was so enamored by her boy friend that she didn't seem to notice anything, the changes that crept into their relationship. An outsider could notice the changes, but a person who's head over heels in love will happily turn a blind eye.
I think most of us (other that the strong-willed and strong hearted)are like that, the moment we fall for someone, we fall real bad. We just refuse to accept that it might not have an happy ending. We live in our imaginary world where everything is honey soaked. Our boy friend is a mills and boon or Yash Raj hero who would never hurt us.
So all I could advice my friend was " Been there, done that. Life will go on with or without him, so untangle yourself from his arms and start to walk away, you will find someone who actually truly, madly and deeply would "LOVE YOU".