Monday, December 24, 2012

whom to blame??????

Hey guys and gals,

A lot has been said and written about the recent Delhi rape case. I think the rapist, politicians, the police and the Delhiites all are at equal fault.

 Rapist because they are brutes, we all agree to that.

Politicians because, it’s not the first time it has happened in India, estimates say every 20 minutes a girl is raped in this country. So why are they creating a hue and cry now. They should have come up with the law the very first time a girl was raped, wasn't a rape a crime then???

 Police, okay this news have made it to the front cover what about the rest and who are the rapist... were they caught and punished. The rich rapists go scot free only the poor ones make it to the news papers.

 Dehiites, you are no better than brutes it’s because of your selfish attitude Delhi has become a rape capital. If the reports are to be believed the girl naked, bleeding unconscious was left on the road to die. She was there for an hour. Cars drove past her how many of them tried to help her.

  I know even this news would die down. All the so-called protestors would go home and get on with their lives and the politician and police would get back to their work (not sure if they do any) and rapist would continue to haunt the roads of Delhi. It has happened before and it will happen again.

The reason behind me writing this post is not to condemn ( because nearly all bloggers and FBians are doing a pretty good job). My reason for writing this post is to try to figure out why people turn rapists. What makes men treat women as mere sex objects....or things that should be used for their own use or fun?

FAMILY: - In a conservative, less educated household a woman is nothing more than a lady who's supposes to do what she's told. Domestic Violence is an epidemic and widespread predominantly against women. Around 70% of the women are victims of domestic violence. Women are said to bear with all atrocities silently that makes them prone to rape, domestic violence and even dowry deaths

CULTURE: - Women have evolved over the years. Have you ever seen a woman urinating in public? Anywhere in India you can see men with their zipper down. When women can wait; why men can’t wait to reach home. It’s we who taught our kids to be like that. We feel its culturally acceptable norm.

EDUCATION: - How many of us has had sex education. It’s not a compulsory subject in school. Schools and colleges hardly pay any attention to it.

MOVIES:  I blame the movies for our current plight. All women centric movies are about sex. Be it fashion, dirty picture, heroine, aiyya. Women shows-off and the movie sell. The movies that doesn't have very important women roles have item numbers where they have double meaning songs.... very vulgar moves and very exposed women examples...chikni chamelli, munnie, fevicol se....and list goes on. 

TV: All pornography stuffs are easily accessible on TV. 

POLITICIANS: just few days ago Mumbai mirror had an article how politician perceive women. Few examples I m putting forward:-

Some women wearing lipstick and powder have taken to the streets
in Mumbai and are abusing politicians and spreading dissatisfaction
- Muqtar Abbas Naqvi, BJP, over the outrage after 26/11.

'Wah kya girlfriend hai! Have you ever seen an Rs 50-crore girlfriend?
- Narendra Modi, BJP, on Shashi Tharoor’S wife

'Listen carefully sister, this is a serious matter, not a filmy subject
- Sushil Kumar Shinde, Congress, to Jaya Bachchan who was debating on Assam

'Only women from affluent classes can get ahead, but remember you rural women will never get a chance because you are not that attractive.
- Mulayam Singh Yadav, SP, at a public rally opposing women’s reservation

Even politicians don't take women seriously. A woman is as good as her face. 

So if rapes are more frequent...actually we as parents, educators, friends, are to be blamed. The blame goes to the movies and the kind of stuffs we get to see on the TV too. We need to correct the society first.... rapes and other women related crimes would automatically go down.


  1. Very true
    its we between all these rapes
    every common man
    a film director

  2. The crime needs to be punished. Laws need to frighten men before they rape. Society needs to frighten them. Society needs to take a stand against them and speak out with the passion of their anger against this wrong doing. A government needs to be powerful with it's people on their toes standing with them demanding justice. Demanding that they do their job right. A strong society of people for the common good of a nation. Speak your mind write about it. You have the insite to educate women to be wise about the men they trust. Be the women who change the laws. Be the mothers who teach all the other mothers how to teach their children. Insist on school involvement in a safer future. Be safe programmes in schools for parent and child.

  3. Its a vicious circle that we survive in. Everything and everyone is to be blamed. Everything and everyone that makes a society is at fault. Since its a vicious circle, a sense of hopelessness has taken over.The only way to break out this circle, is to start at home. Only if we make sure, that our homes are safe, then can we hope for a safer country.

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  4. I agree to every word written here! We, by "we" I mean the whole of Human Race, have long way before we shed our animal instincts and be civilised; But you know what they say, they say Change starts at Home

  5. Just wondering what you think of this

    The question is asked should the victim's name be released or not. I'm shocked infraction...I did not know of this law. I feel strongly that her name should not be released for even when dead she deserves her dignity and I'm sure this is not how she would want the world to remember her. What do you think?



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